24 Nonverbal Cues That Makes you UN-Attractive to women Get Rid of Them and SCORE!
- Admin
- Jul 21, 2015
- 6 min read
What do you think is the One Thing that makes a man most attractive to women?
It’s the impression that you’re a dominant man. And no, you don’t have to grunt, scratch, and slap a women around like a cave man to convey dominance... nor should you!
You convey your dominant male status simply by acting the way dominant men do, by consciously controlling the nonverbal cues you send out, thereby creating the impression within a woman that you are ALPHA.
Right now, you’re going to learn how to act like an alpha male, giving the impression of dominance by using your voice, your eyes, your behavior and your posture.
Try to avoid the following non-verbal indicators of beta status:
#1 Using “ah” and “um,” partial sentences, and partial words.
Studies have shown that people consider others who talk like this to lack confidence and not be too bright. It’s a sign of nervousness. The reason we say “um” is because we’re afraid we’re going to be interrupted by the other person. Instead, don’t be afraid to pause for effect. Pausing before important points will make you seem more competent and people will remember what you say
#2 Speaking too fast
This gives off the impression that you feel anxious and have low self-confidence. A normal,comfortable speaking rate varies within a moderate range from 125 to 150 words per minute. Slow down!
#3 Speaking with a monotone voice, also known as mumbling
People with a narrow pitch range are viewed as unassertive, uninteresting, and lacking in confidence. So vary your pitch and you will be perceived as outgoing and alpha.
#4 Pausing too long before responding to a question
This indicates that you’re thinking too hard for your answer, which makes you seem indecisive. It also looks like you’re trying too hard to win the other person’s approval.
#5 Pulled-in, closed postures
An alpha male spreads his arms and legs out and is open. When standing, you can
force open your body language by hooking your thumbs in your back pockets.
#6 Holding your hands in front of you.
This is a defensive gesture. Instead hold yourself open and vulnerable. (You hold yourself vulnerable because you feel no fear.) Let your arms relax and be open. Nobody’s going to punch you, so why do you need to block yourself?
#7 Twitching your fingers or hands
When you're across the table from someone there's a natural inclination to play with sugar packets or straw wrappers with your fingers. Don't. And don’t drum your fingers on the table—women hate that.
#8 Touching your face when you talk
This indicates that you’re thinking too hard, you’re indecisive, or that you feel shy. To convey confidence, hold your hands together in a steeple shape in front of your chest or face. (A lot of professors do this when they are lecturing.) Another posture that will help you when you need a huge display of confidence is holding your hands at your hips. Cops do this when they need to establish authority over criminal suspects.
#9 Folding or crossing your arms in front of you
On rare occasions it is possible to fold your arms in an alpha fashion (watch Brad Pitt in the movie Fight Club for a good demonstration of this), but as a general rule, avoid it.
#10 Rigid or hunched posture
An alpha male has a relaxed posture, whether he’s standing or sitting. Loosen up and spread out.
#11 Looking down
The alpha man holds his head high. It shows zest. Looking down at the floor telegraphs “loser.” Keep your chin up. Expose your neck—don’t worry, nobody’s going to choke you! Look at the person you’re talking to; remember what I said about using your eyes.
#12 Nervous facial gestures
such as lip licking, pursing your lips, twitching your nose, and biting your lips. An alpha male has a relaxed face and mouth because he fears no one.
#13 Excessive smiling
Studies of primates have shown that beta males will smile as a way to signal their harmlessness to stronger males. Beta humans smile to show they’re not a threat. The alpha male, however, only smiles when there is something to smile about. And yes—he can be a threat.
#14 Walking fast as part of your normal walk
Instead, walk a little slower than normal, almost as if you’re swaggering. You’re alpha—no one’s chasing you and you’re not rushing to please anyone else. If you’re not in a hurry to get somewhere, walk like you’re relaxed and confident. Think: “I am the man. I can make any woman happy.”
#15 Walking only with your legs.
Don’t be afraid to move your torso and arms. Try this: walk as if you’d just had a massive success and felt on top of the world. Watch what you do with your body. You may find yourself moving your arms along with your shoulders and having a slight bounce in your step. Now, do that all the time.
#16 Slouching
You don’t have to stand uncomfortably ramrod straight, but you should have your shoulders back. Watch Brad Pitt in any of his movies for examples of how to comfortably hold your back straight. (I keep bringing Brad Pitt up because he provides an excellent example of what good body language looks like. Also watch George Clooney. For fans of older movies, check out Sean Connery in From Russia With Love and Rock Hudson in Pillow Talk.)
#17 Blinking a lot
Instead blink your eyes slowly. Don't close your eyes in discomfort. Just let your eyelids relax. In fact, let them droop a bit. Don't be bug-eyed.
#18 Shifting your eyes back and forth when you speak
That’s very beta. When you’re in a conversation and you’re doing the talking, gaze at the other person’s face. Nonverbally, this communicates that that you say is important and worth listening to.
#19 Holding too much eye contact when the other person speaks
Ignore the dating advice books that tell you to hold non-stop eye contact. Non-stop eye contact makes you look needy, socially retarded, and, frankly, like a weirdo. Instead let your eyes blur and then gaze at her eyes. Look through her rather than at her. From extensive testing, I've found that gazing at a woman about two-thirds of the time is optimal. By the way, only hold the gaze when she's telling you something genuinely interesting. Otherwise, focus on other stuff like her breasts, her hair, things going on around you, etc.
#20 Being uncomfortable with your eyes
The bottom line is that your eyes should be comfortable, relaxed, assertive, and sexual.
#21 Looking down or to the side before answering a woman’s question
If you do need to look away before answering in order to think, then look up and to the side. Studies have shown that this displays more confidence.
#22 Being afraid to touch a woman, and thus being nontouching.
Be confident about it when you touch women-any nervousness at all can be fatal for your relations with her. Be alpha and physically move her when you need to. Hold her hand to lead her around, etc. Be gentle—if you use excessive pressure, you reveal your insecurity. (Since you’re alpha, of course she will follow you, so there’s no need to be anything other than playful and tender.) It's natural to touch others, as when you're emphasizing a point. So let the love flow!
#23 Turning your head fast when someone wants your attention.
Instead use the movements that you would when you’re at home—slow and relaxed. You’re not at anyone’s beck and call. You’re alpha, remember?
#24 Using long, convoluted sentences.
Alphas keep it short and to the point. If you’re tempted to use long sentences, break them up.
Don’t feel bad if you inevitably slip up and use some of these nonverbal cues from time to time. No one’s perfect, so don’t beat yourself up about it, especially when you’re talking with a woman. Let it go and keep the conversation moving.
When you think about such things too much while talking, you start to doubt yourself, and when that happens, you feel insecure and anxious and become hesitant. Instead just work on remaining nonchalant yet sincere at all times.
It’s enough to simply be aware of how you communicate non-verbally with everything you do, because being aware means you will start to avoid negative communications much more.
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